on Oct 28, 2013
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One glance was all it took…
I'm a cheater.
I'm a liar.
My whole life is a mess.
I love a man.
No, I love two men…
One makes love to me. The other sets me on fire.
One is my rock. The other is my kryptonite.
I'm broken, lost, and disgusted with myself.
But I can't stop. This is my story.
My broken love story.
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In my reading life I’ve had an abundance of reading experiences where I’ve felt extremely moved and that something in me has shifted. Books that have challenged me. Books that made me think a lot. Books that have rocked me to the core. But I’ve only had a handful of books that I could say actually changed my life in a tangible way. Books that caused me to think about things thoroughly and pushed me to finally take action and change something.
A R S E N.
Arsen made things truly different for me. It took me by the shoulders and shook me as I watched Cathy find herself. It was just this book I think I was DESTINED to read as most of the things happening in my life was kind of mirroring where the main character was at in ways. So much of my own life problems I was watching unfold in Cathy’s journey that I started questioning myself “DID MIA KNOW THAT I NEEDED THIS BOOK RIGHT AT THIS VERY MOMENT? DID SHE WRITE IT FOR ME?” I know it is very unlikely but this is EXTREMELY HITTING CLOSE TO HOME. I kept reading, not only because I loved the story and the characters, but because I felt like I would find the answers to what I needed to do in Cathy’s journey. And I did. I am so grateful for the words that I needed to hear at exactly the right time in my life.
This book is the real deal. It talks about real life situations. I think Mia Asher is just one of those authors who is able to so beautifully write a messy love story and everything that comes with it. The growing and changing of relationships, the truth about marriage…about love.
“We haven’t been in the best place lately… Sometimes, Ben and I are like friendly strangers living under the same roof; we say hello and ask each other about how our days went, but the intimacy ends there…we are like roommates than a married couple. There’s an emotional disconnect growing between us, and on bad days it seems like it’ll be impossible to bridge.”
We all know for a fact that marriage exists in many states. There are those that are blissfully happy and content, and those that have broken down so irretrievably that they are headed for the divorce courts.
And then, somewhere in the middle, are the ‘semi-happy marriages’.
These are the unions where couples coast along in affectionate but passionless relationships – their situation not bad enough to want out, not good enough to bring any real joy. The exact same state where Cathy caught herself in.
“Wishing, hoping and praying for that one things that you want and need the most to be finally yours just to have destiny, or life, or karma, or whatever the hell you want to call it, snatch it out of your hands over and over again. I can’t go through it again, I just can’t.”
“I love him. I’ve fallen in love with another man. But can you love two men at the same time? Because I think I do.”
“How can something so wrong feel this right? Like it was meant to be? Maybe we were meant to be together. But were we? Or did we force our hand?”
Is it really possible?
This is tough question. How often do we find true love in the first place? And how frustrating is it when we find it but it comes at such an inopportune time, such as when you’re in another relationship? Of course it’s ideal if you can leave the current relationship for a shot at a new one, but it’s not always that easy. Sometimes you can’t leave, or other times you don’t want to leave. But can you really do this and keep everyone happy?
I know this book has divided a lot of people. If love triangles or cheating are absolute deal-breakers for you in a book then you might have trouble with this one. Do I particularly enjoy these things? No. But, when well done, they work for me in fiction. And mark my word…Mia Asher is the QUEEN of writing really messy and complicated things well. The intense emotions and feelings and highs and lows, exquisitely written and full of that raw and unflinching honesty. I could feel the tension. All those angry feelings. All the guilt and regret. All those confusing feelings that even logic or your conscience can’t keep at bay. It all spilled over. I found myself torn on Cathy’s behalf. She’s broken. She felt empty. She’s flawed and it took her a long time to realize her mistakes but I liked that. It felt real. At the end I found myself rooting for her to sort out all her issues and accept the consequences.
“Arsen taught me to move on. To live life and forget. He made me laugh when all I wanted was to stop existing. I will always love him. His inner fire brought me back to life. Yes, he was the fire that burned my marriage down to ashes, but in those ashes, HOPE WAS REBORN. He healed me.”
Arsen was the kick in the butt I needed. When I finished the book I was just weeping. Not only because it was a damn good book but also because I knew what I had to do. I knew that I could not read these words and feel these things that mirrored my own life and just not do something about it. It was like I was being sent my own little message for my life and I would be stupid not to listen. It felt overwhelming. It felt liberating.
Ms. Asher definitely has a gift. She has the power of making her characters come alive and impact you in ways you didn’t see coming. Thank you, Mia for writing this. And now, I am a woman obsessed.
If you are someone who likes messy and complicated books, someone who isn’t completely discouraged by love triangles and someone who likes complex and flawed characters, this book is a MUST read for you. While on the surface this book might just seem like a romance with a love triangle but it is SO MUCH MORE than that. It’s about making mistakes and learning from it the hard way. It’s about realizing you can come back from it and take control over your life again.
“Miracles are the consequences of daring to believe. And I dare you to believe in us again, Ben. I dare you to.”
Have you read this book yet? I want to know your thoughts. Are you #TeamBen or are you #TeamArsen?
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WOW!! I have tears running down my cheeks and goose bumps on my arms!!! Amazing trailer!!! It’s perfect!
This is an incredible book. I am #TeamArsen as well as #TeamBen! I always have been, but wow this trailer kills me and makes me feel SO terrible for Ben!!!
Always passion, rarely logic
Passion or logic? I’d definetely choose passion